Last year I had the surprising experience of having a couple of people I know get diabetes. I also discovered in the process of getting to know a new friend, that she had diabetes. Three people I know and have in my life that have diabetes too. All in one year! And then there is blogging and the OC where I've met so many new, wonderful friends who have diabetes too. Nineteen years of utter loneliness with diabetes and then suddenly in one year, I feel seen and understood in a way I never have before. It's very strange and very wonderful.
Last week I got an email from my new friend telling me of her great A1c results. It was a short email and it nearly brought me to tears. That she shared her achievement with me. That I had a new friend who actually knew what an A1c was. That she'd done so well, which means she was taking care of herself, which is so hard and admirable. That I knew what an achievement her A1c was and could say so to her and celebrate with her. It was so simple and small really, but also so huge. A thin thread between she and I, based on a similar journey. I am less alone because I know her and she honored me by sharing her achievement. Less alone and more whole because my diabetes isn't so hidden anymore. What a gift!
And today, I'm going to meet my friend who got diagnosed last summer. We're going to this amazing little bakery to have a cookie and some coffee. We both know how to handle it in terms of our insulin and we're both psyched. Because we know we deserve it, we know how to deal with it and we're doing it with someone else who gets how cool that is. As I was hanging up from making the arrangements to meet, I said something about getting ready for an "insulin moment". We both laughed and after I was off the phone, I just smiled. I'm meeting a friend who gets the significance of insulin, the importance of carb counting and most importantly, the value of a trip to the bakery for a special cookie once in a while. She and I get that we need to have a treat once in a while as well as make an adventure out of it. Again, I'm so lucky that she gets it and I'm less alone in the process. And again, I have another gift to notice and celebrate!